Aug 202012

It took my quite a while to come out as being Polyamorous. I did it step by step. First i talked to friends, than family, than colleagues, and finally i did not want to hide it anymore and even wanted to help promote the idea.

A similar development is described in this excellent article by Franklin Veaux Some thoughts on being out. One sentence that sums up, why it would be good if more people came out: “Polyamory, and homosexuality, and BDSM, and all kinds of other non-socially-sanctioned relationship structures are perceived negatively in part because people don’t often see them, and it’s easier to vilify something that you don’t see every day.”

Gays started coming out, beginning in the seventies and eighties, sometimes risking a lot. And as a reward they see a lot of progress.

It seems to me, at least in my homecountry Germany, and also in a lot of other western countries, that Coming Out as Poly is much less risky. So i would encourage anybody who is in a position to come out without risking anything to do so.

You don´t need to become an activist. Just put it out there. One chance is to put in your Online-Profiles at Facebook, Google, Twitter or wherever you are. You could also join this initiative by Modern Poly and create a profile at

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Notice: This article is translated – and some contents might have been added or left out to better meet the needs of an international audience – from an original article on one of my german websites or (engl:Polygamy is good for you). How i do my translations. Last updated: May 13, 2013 at 22:06 pm © Viktor Leberecht All rights reserved. Please feel free to share my content, but on republishing this post please provide a link to the original post, which happens automatically when you use Social-Sharing-Services. What do you think? Leave a comment here or send me a question through the contact form or the FAQ.

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 20/08/2012, Last updated: May 13, 2013 at 22:06 pm  Polyamory Coming Out Tagged with: , , ,  Add comments

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